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up my bill I said, calmly and comfortably, "I also want a pair in female style frames." His response "O.K., let me pick out a few styles for you to try on." One of these was particularly appealing to me and at first the optician agreed. But he looked again at the frames which I was wearing and said that while he liked the style on me, he thought that the color was too light for my complexion. He then studied the rack of frames and finally picked out a slightly different style in a darker color. I tried them on and he said, "There, that's it. You look very good in them." And I agreed.

We conversed freely and naturally as he completed the charge slip and all during the process of selecting and fitting the frames he did not speak one word of or convey any signs of surprise or disapproval of my purchase.

In about two weeks I'll have my first pair of female styled glasses and I'm looking forward to it with anxiety and pleasure.

Like you have said, Virginia, we can be our own worst enemies by the way we project our feelings while making purchases of feminine items. If we approach the situation calmly and confidently, it is easy and if we need help, to simply speak up.

I have a low capability in coordinating colors. So, if I need a blouse to go with a skirt I am buying, or a visa versa, I simply tell the sales clerk that I am poor at color coordination and I get all kinds of help, willingly and freely offered. In every case, the final selection by those GG sales clerks is perfect and beautiful. And they always seem pleased with my usual parting comment that "she" will really like it (and so far "she" really has).

Love,

Patricia Louise

Dear Virginia, Mary and Friends,

Thank you ever so much for the shipment of literature you sent me (Numbers 20, 51, 91 and 92 of Transvestia, The TV and His Wife, Understanding Cross Dressing, and How to Be a Woman Though

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